
I want to say right off that Fred and I don't have the perfect marriage and sometimes a little help is needed...
I knew of one friend who said she had the perfect marriage and me being young and naive I believed her...2 yrs later she was divorced...Talk about a wake up call...I was devastated! I found out right then and there that there is no such thing as the perfect marriage but there are things you can do to make it better!
Now I am on my second marriage and this one is 100% better than the first marriage, heck it's 200% better, lol...I love Fred and I want to make this marriage a good one...I want us to be Happy! But lately it seemed as neither Fred nor I were happy...I was worried...where was this going?
A few weeks ago I was talking to a girlfriend who is working at making her marriage better and she suggested this book "The proper care and feeding of husbands". I am NOT into self help books...find them normally quiet boring but this book was good! I admit I needed help as I was having a hard time understanding why Fred had changed from the first few years we were married...
I wanted the man I married back...
he laughed,
he was happy
we loved being together...
Now mind you this book will not help marriages where there is abuse, or where drugs and alcohol are the problem. But it will help woman in most marriages with what they can do to make things better.
IT WAS AN EYE OPENER...
As I read this book I learned there were things about myself I needed to change...I was amazed at how it wasn't Fred but me that needed work, lol, Surprise Surprise!!...Fred works hard for our family and I need to appreciate that and show him how much I appreciate that (Which I thought I did, but obviously NOT enough)...My actions and behavior needed to change...I woke up and realized that I have a job to do and yes it is a hard job at times and sometimes I'm Hot and Tired and I don't want too...but there are times when I am sure Fred doesn't want to go to work but he does...
So I've been working at being positive, Not telling him all my problems or gripes, which he really does NOT want to hear after working all day, giving him some down time after work to relax and unwind, listening to him when he talks to me, having dinner ready when he gets home. Doing little things around the house for him that he likes...making sure the bed is made, everything is dusted, etc, etc, etc...
I think you get the picture...I highly recommend every woman I know reads this book...even if you are having no problems (yea right!) in your marriage...read this book...even if you are not married but just in a relationship...read this book...Heck even if you are single...read this book...Just listen to me...READ THIS BOOK!!
It will open your eyes up and hopefully you'll have a better understanding of yourself and what Men want!!
As to Fred and I...I think it is helping me, us, our relationship...things are a bit more relaxed and easy going and I like that :o)
My attitude has changed and my husband is no. 1 and I do my best to treat him with the respect he deserves...this isn't an overnight success story...I still mess up...yes I do...but I am working at it!
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Now you don't have to go buy this book but go to the library and check it out!! Let me know what you think!